Eavesdropping a Man’s View of True Beauty

by Dana Boyle on August 24, 2011

I grabbed lunch at Culver’s yesterday on my way back to my home office.  As I sat and ate my cheeseburger by myself in a booth looking out the window, there were three young men behind me eating their lunches and talking about women.

What was notable about their conversation was that it wasn’t all about who’s hot and who they’d “do,” but instead they were talking about the DIFFERENCE between women who are “hot” and women who were “beautiful.”

They mentioned specific Hollywood women, and they talked about women that they know in person from school or work.  One guy said, “For example, you know Katie Smith (name changed of course).  Well, she’s not really what I’d call “hot,” she’s better than that.  She’s beautiful.  Know what I mean?  Not everyone looks like her, and she doesn’t try to be like every other girl, she’s just herself.  She’s comfortable being who she is and she isn’t all obsessed with her looks.  Whereas, Sally Johnson is totally “hot” but she isn’t even pretty without all that foo foo right?”  The other guys agreed.  “Yeah, I know what you mean.  She does herself all up and makes herself hot, and I might do her, but she’s not beautiful – she’s ordinary and she’s actually a total bitch who I couldn’t stand to be around.”

The banter they were having was very lighthearted and honest.  It was guys being guys with no women around.  They didn’t know I was listening.  They were freely sharing how they view the opposite sex, and I found it fascinating that true beauty in their minds had more to do with a woman being herself and not trying to be like everyone else’s or society’s standard of beauty or “hotness.”  It was refreshing to listen to.

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Karin August 24, 2011 at 12:45 pm

Aren’t men amazing?!


Dana Boyle August 24, 2011 at 12:47 pm

Yes, they are! They are actually very honest and have a great point of view, when they are free to express it.


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